I miss you. Life has changed a lot since you left. Cars run on electricity, phones talk back, and there is an African-American President. People can use the same monitor to watch television and surf the internet, just as you predicted they would.
Some things remain the same. The Leafs are in a Cup drought, Pakistan and India remain unfriendly, and I’m still a geek obsessed with books, jewelry and design.
Last year I got married.
On the big day, I got a sense of comfort by incorporating your wedding photos on the receiving table. I wore the chain and pendant you got me under my bridal necklace so I could keep you close to my heart. Shy Mom walked me down the aisle – it was quite the sight!
We made a donation to charity in your memory.
We couldn’t do a father-daughter dance, but I made sure to include some of your favourite Beatles songs on the playlist.
Your sister helped me choose my wedding dress. Your mother gifted my bangles. Your father sent my mayoun outfit.
It was hard planning the wedding without you .
I know you had the best seat in the house that day. Thinking of you this week and always.*
Readers, have you included lost loved ones on your wedding day? What did you do?
More ideas on planning in grief and how to honour lost loved ones:
- A Practical Wedding (1) and (2)
- Green Wedding Shoes
- Offbeat Bride
- Snippet & Ink
- Sweetgrass Social
- This Cannot be my Life
(*) Inna lillahi wa innah ilayhi raji’un.